Oh "The Talk." That most uncomfortable and confusing conversation for everyone. As the kid, you don't necessarily want to be hearing about this from mom. As parent, are you really ready for your baby to know this stuff? I have not been in the role of the parent, so I do understand that my ideal situation may be dismissed as the fantasies of someone who just doesn't know what they're talking about.
However, I do remember my feelings when I had this talk with my parents. My mother did something that I've never seen another parent do. When I asked where babies came from as a small child, she told me "in the mommies tummy." What she told me after was the whole science of a mass of sperm breaking down the outer membrane of the egg inside of the body. After a very long explanation full of medical terms, I though I had it down. Her description never included the way the sperm got to the egg...
Once I was 13, I finally figured out what I was missing. I sprung the "how does sex work" question on her a little rapidly and she wasn't quite prepared.
Ideally, I would like my own child to have the microscopic biology down before I talk about the more attention grabbing definition of sex. I would want it to be a relaxed day where no one had to hurry off to be somewhere.I think everyone should start with
"What do you know about sex?"
You should know what your kid knows. And know what they may have learned that is wrong.
I think every talk should stress the importance of how important and special sex can be. Also including however, how dangerous unsafe sex can be. I will be asking my child what they know about birth control as well. Boy or girl, I want them to know about condoms and have them available.
A sex talk should NOT include guilt. Ultimately, your body is wired to want to have sex. Even if it is the persons decision to wait until marriage, if it has been beaten into their brains that it is bad, that could include some serious mental baggage.
Sex is a good thing. It feels good. It helps sustain the human race. It brings a level of intimacy to a relationship that is special. This talk has to be handled carefully.
